Certainly, my oldest daughter texts, posts, and video chats. Yes, she is acutely concious of when it is “time” to freshen up the wardrobe with a handful of new pieces from the most current fashion trends. Yes, your lady often rolls her sight at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the highest of her sharing list these days.
I was truly amazed by her expression from deep wisdom that has used many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches because of different veins of the exterior world to figure out. What my own dear girl was announcing through the example of summertime camp–one of any feasible outer examples–probably resonates with most of us when looked at strongly.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, many with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit funny to her now, providing that while appreciative for the sentiment, she hoped the fact that her fellow campers felt free to be themselves above the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family eating dinner. In short, everywhere.
Using a palpable gratitude for all of the opportunities and lessons discovered from her previous camp experiences, she began to talk about her deeper thoughts on the following subject and beyond. This lady shared that while camp is touted as a destination to be fully and legitimately yourself, create a sisterhood, improve a connection to nature, and explore your core throughout contemplation and solitude, the actual of it all is to come to understand that inner bond is available anywhere, anytime, and a lot of importantly in the NOW.
Indeed, a typical adolescent in so many ways, Apart from underneath the North Face layer and the Ugg boots, at the rear of the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent screen, and even beyond our intimate family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies a good self-awareness and interior starting that seems unfathomable for any child her age.
Yes, my son has her challenges, the woman’s snarky attitudes, her minutes of self-doubt. Yes, your lady can sometimes be mean to her siblings, sassy to her parents, generally ornery. And yet, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true compassion for others that will serve but not only her, but the world at large, quite well.
Even though we encouraged all of our children to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her that decision to return is now 100 % up to her. As that discussion ensued, I had become almost mesmerized by the girl’s capacity to articulate the woman’s vantage point on the subject.
While some parents interest status, monetary reward and upward societal movement for their children–none of which are negative per say–beyond those outside walls pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own home be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
She went on to give the example of seeing quite undoubtedly that she doesn’t will need to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything numerous (a camper) to look and feel authentic, open, connected and free. While she surely views camp as a blessing, she knows that she’s enough just as she is with or without camp to make sure you remind her of that inside knowing.
Not necessarily what I experienced many years back (alright twenty-six quite a few years back to be exact) with the tender age of fourteen. Recently my daughter and I were discussing whether or not she would attend, once again, some three week all girls’ camp for the junior high summer in a row.
We do not need to go someplace special or do something unusual to live our own truth. In other words, freedom to be comfortable in this own skin should not be kept for places that we go to three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all ways, always.
She promised me that she was not “knocking” camp in any way and may also choose to return, but any time she does go back to get another year or three, it would not be for the reason that camp experience allows her to feel more unique in any way. Her return is based on the conscious, bottom (soul) choice to attend considering she enJOYs the experience not because it is a “safe” place to be herself fully globally.